I have read a post here entitled "bakit mahalaga ang virginity?"..i wanted to make a comment but i thought i would be wiser if i would just post my own message here..pls read on.....

In the strictest term; you are a virgin until you've had sexual intercourse with the member of the opposite sex. But this definition leaves a lot of people out of the loop. While the social policy makers look to redefine marriage to include same sex partnerships, maybe it is time we also revisited what it means to be a virgin.

When we think of virgins, we think of "white wedding innocents" who define sex as a synonym for gender. But the fact is, the standard definition of virginity lets you get away with having a lot of different kinds of sex was still being able to call yourself a virgin. In theory, under the traditional definition of virginity, someone who is homosexual can have sex every day and still be a virgin. Someone who has oral sex regularly is also still a virgin. Does that really make sense? Something is a miss!

The whole narrow definition of virginity is in desperate need of a rewrite. Who better to do it than the first generation of new millennium teens? What does "losing your virginity" mean to you? Is it a state of mind or a specific act? Is it something that can be taken from you, or does it only count if you willingly give it away? When does "fooling around" end and "having sex" begin?

When considering "the new definition", think about these situations and ask yourself how they fit in to the meaning of virginity.

Is someone who is raped or molested no longer a virgin?
Is actual intercourse the only act that counts when determining ones virginity?
If you willingly engage in other intimate sexual acts but do not have intercourse, is it fair to still consider yourself a virgin?
How would you define losing your virginity if you were/are homosexual or bisexual?
Is being a virgin based on your feelings, what you do, or is it a combination of both?
Is there an emotional component to losing your virginity, meaning if you have sex but don't feel anything is different about you, does it count?
Is the current definition of virginity, and all the social stigma attached to it, biased toward girls? Is this right?
Does the current definition of virginity exclude homosexuals? Is this right?
Is virginity subjective (based on how the individual views themselves and what they do) or objective (how the situation is viewed by others on the outside)?

If you are 17, 16, 15, or even 13 or 12 years old does not make you "too young" to understand the term but not "too old" to know the true meaning of it. let us not play innocent or something...but lets not be naughty...we filipinos are brought up by our parents in a conservative way right? I remember before when I was 16 years old (well that was 11 years ago) I asked my mom about the thing called "necking". Honestly...I really dont know what it meant before until my mom told me what it is. Its just good that my mother is open to things like this and not like the other mothers out there who would not discuss things like that with their children thinking its not a right topic to discuss.

Medically, you are a virgin if your HYMEN is still intact...damn! what if a woman stretched or tore her hymen during horseback riding, ballet dancing, or even riding a bicycle...would you consider her not a virgin anymore?? If a woman was born with a tiny or nonexistent hymen, was she not a virgin? if women had given birth but still has her hymen intact..is she still a virgin??

I agree with what edsel and inche ( and the others also..that i would rather not mention their names nlng ang dami kc) said in their comment that if you're in love virginity should not be an issue.

Now to sum things up...ask yourselves "am I a virgin? in the true sense of being one?"

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