LDR : Love on the net!
posted by seksgades888 (Mar 21, 2006 @ 12:37PM) views: 707

Mahirap maghandle ng LDR relationship lalo na pag sa internet lang nagsimula. Tell me pipol:

Paano nyo nahahandle ang mga ganitong sitwasyon? LQ.
Tingin nyo ba love ang nararamdaman o tamang pantasya lamang kasi walang iba eh?
Hopeful ba kayo na pag nagkita kayo ay ganun din ang mararamdaman nyo pa rin?
Worth it ba ang makipagrelasyon sa internet?
Sugal ba tlaga ang chat-affair?

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i dont want to sound pedantic, bitter, proud, self-righteous, guilty.

in fact i dont want to sound anything at all. in spite of the fact that those are, in sum, the very things that i feel right now.

i just wanna say something. and something i will say.

this to all those who are maintaining long-distance relationships.

DO NOT GIVE A F**K about what other people say.

opinions are like ass-holes, everyone has them. and the best-intentioned advice-givers do not even see the bigger picture, nor care what road your relationship takes. and why? because they have troubles of their own to take care of. and more often than not, they don't even take the advices they give.

F**K them.

magastos ang LDR, so what? pera ba nila? maraming nangengelam. hilaw naman sa karanasan.

i have been through three failed LDRs in my time.

tried my best to keep it afloat, heroic, blood-sweat-and-tears effort. ended up losing a job because of it. and for what? zero.

am i the wiser for it? NO. am i scared to enter into an LDR again? NO.

in fact, i am in one right now. going on three weeks. trying to keep it. it is not a walk in the park. but it will work, given enough reason and enough perseverance. it will.

i have a total of six-and-a-half-years of failed LDRs under my belt, and i dare anyone to beat that one and tell me all hope is lost for LDRs.

permit me to tell you a story, and hope you will learn from it.

first LDR, almost 3 months together, 2 years away. nothing heavy.

endless phone calls, internet, saw another one who looks just like her on our second year, goodbye LDR.

second LDR. two years together, almost 3 years away. pilipinas lang this time hindi abroad.

she went to CDO as she was reassigned to a better post, then to cebu. i followed her like a faithful dog his master.

plane fare every weekend kasi sayang ang days pag nag bus or barko.

i pay papapunta, sya pauwi. una madalas pa, habang tumatagal dumadalang na.

leave ako, leave sa. pagka-ubos ng leave AWOL na kahit alam na meron ng memo pag-balik.

this went on for the longest time. we were bone-tired of it. she wanted me to transfer, but i loved my job.

she hated my job, i hated hers. we ended up hating each other.

i was forced to quit it because of too many absences from work. but after all of that mess, we parted.

third one, 1 year 3 months together, 3 months away.

she moved to a better job in manila. i was in law school.

quit school, quit job, to be with her. habol si lolo sa manila. i was hellbent on not letting this one slip away like the other two.

konting away, poof. gone.

but that's me. and call me a fool, but i never learned anything.

or HAVE I?

like many things in life, a relationship's life always hangs in a balance, and it is in the way you maintain it that either kills it or keeps it alive.

it is never the distance, never the expense, never the loneliness. love can overcome that.

but trust, fidelity, compatibility, THESE are the real issues.

LDR does not end with DISTANCE, no sir.

it ends you ARE TOGETHER, if you are lucky, nay, STEADFAST enough to withstand the stress of it all.

who says na pag-na survive nyo na ang LDR at pag-umuwi na kung sino man ang umalis eh di na kayo mag-hihiwalay? hahaha! how myopic is that?

SO.

you ask, is there a difference between these relationship and something where you have never even met the person -- like only over the internet and e-mail? NO.

the same risks. the same promises of undying love.

the same ekla-vouz and chuvalas-chula na maririnig mo from one end of the phone to the other.

why be afraid of getting hurt; will it kill you? NO.

are you a poorer person because you lost someone because of LDR? NO.

shy away from LDR? NO.
it is like shying away from love itself.

love lesser when you are in LDR? NO.
love to the fullest or it is not love at all.

the truth is, the feircer your love is, the better chances you get.

yes, you're just living on a prayer.

but that is better than none.

and anyone who says otherwise can sh*t in their hat and wear it backwards for all i care.

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