MAHABA ITO. But i hope it's worth-reading. Lalo na kapag ala kayong gnagawa, hehehe.

Minsan naiisip natin na dapat para maging ok ang relationship dapat maging open sa isa't-isa ... na dapat every thought, memory and past experience is shared. Habang okay to bilang goal sa isang relasyon, para sa iba baka gagawa lang to ng irreparable damages.

Pambihira tlga utak ng tao. Natatandaan ang amoy, at mga visions from decades ago. Nakakapa buhay ng mga happy moments mo sa bata ka pa, mga ligawan nung bata ka pa (at pwede ring bata ka parin hanggang ngyon) at lahat ng mga magandang okasyon.

Pero pwede ring parang selda ang utak natin ng mga bad memories at lahat ng horros ng life natin.

Isipin mo ung mga war survivors na nakakita ng mga "CARNAGE" sa digmaan .. ung iba nagpapakamatay dahil hindi nila maalis sa isip o sa memory ang mga traumatic images ... mga dugu-an .. mga kawawang pugot na kamay, paa, ulo, at iba pa.

Open book tlga ako. At even before I started courting, minsan sinasabi ko yung mga pasts ko .. minsan bluntly pa. And it could go either way, acceptance or rejection.

Kaya naisip ko kung how much of one's past life should be shared with someone you want to marry?

While each situation is a little different, when it comes to previous intimate encounters (oo mga sexploits), it is
usually best to discuss them in general terms (meaning, wak na yung details).

Yes, you should be honest if you had sexual relationships before you married, but for the sake of the mind that does not forget, it is best to leave out the details.

You will have to live with the memories of your past indiscretions but you should not make your mate live with them too.

While you might be curious to know the names, places and situations of your love's prior intimate encounters, in the long run your relationship will be better off keeping that information in the past. Baka gawin pang weapon against you later sa marriage life.

But for me, I've done telling na. But the details? only when she asks. I'm not even hesitant. But honestly? dpende na kung ano sa tingin mo maging reaction nya.. for us/me ... alam ko di sya ganun ka seloso kahit na admit nya na she gets jealous sa mga pasts ko.... parang di nya daw mababawi yung kung ano yung na share ko sa mga pasts ko (seryoso man o flings)

I've known many people who have said that once they knew the specific details of their mate's sexual experiences, it took months or years before those thoughts and images no longer dominated his or her mind.

In blissful relationships we don't ask our mate to share memories he or she is trying to forget and neither do we tell our mates those things that will sear unwelcome images into their mind.

In some cases it is best to discuss those things, but a trained counselor would be of more help. While God does forgive and forget the all the wrongs things we have done when we ask Him to, we humans have to live with our memories the rest of our lives.

Anyway, honestly really pays-off din naman.

And i'm talking about this when you're almost close to marrying or settling down.

Sa mga mag-syota jan ... wak na masyado hukayin ... if u want to know her/his pasts .. unahan mo by telling urs ... unless wla masyado kwento ang past mo compared sa knya.

anyway.... just sharing my thoughts.

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